These phrases are banned! What parents shouldn't tell their children
Every mother most of all in this life wants her child to have everything good in later life. This is a natural desire, but, oddly enough, it is the parents who quite often cause the appearance of complexes in the child. When we are not satisfied with the behavior of our children, we, of course, express our dissatisfaction, often using phrases that we ourselves repeatedly heard from our parents in childhood. Such phrases include: "What can grow out of you!?", "Don't be a coward!", etc. Meanwhile, these seemingly harmless words are usually followed by the child's lack of confidence in himself and his own abilities, dissatisfaction with life, etc. Let's talk in more detail about what phrases parents should never utter. Phrase 1. "What can grow out of you!?". When you say this phrase, you are trying to make the child correct his behavior, which, for some reason, did not satisfy you and, as they say, "took up the mind." But the perception of a child is significantly different from the perception of an adult. Do you know how the kid will understand your phrase? He will think that you think that a real blockhead will grow out of him, who will become a problem for his parents. This phrase is inherently incapable of mobilizing a child for correction. With such a statement, you can bring pain to the child, since your opinion is very important to him. Instead of this unfortunate statement, it is better to say something like: "I didn't like at all that you took the toy from Fedya, etc., but I think that you will improve and grow up to be a real good girl!". Phrase 2. "And my friend's son already knows how to do it ...". This phrase is the main enemy of the child. Perhaps you think that this will spur your child to master what he does not yet know, but it is not so. The child, on the contrary, will think that he will not be able to learn anything. But that's not all. The fact is that such a phrase that flew off the lips of the mother can make the baby hate all the children around him, which in turn will significantly complicate the social adaptation of your child and his communication with peers. It's better to say something like: "I see that you're trying. If you can't figure out how to do it, then you can always turn to me for help. I will definitely help you!". Phrase 3. "Stop being a coward!". We all tend to be afraid. You have to explain to the child that fear is normal, but in some cases it is unreasonable. No need to call him a coward, it will negatively affect him in the future.
Phrase 4. "Well, I told you so!" Instead of such a rebuke, it's better to just tell the child to be more careful in the future, after which, hug the baby tightly. Such behavior on your part will help the baby learn to experience his failures more adequately. In addition, according to psychologists, this is the best way to "harden" boys.
Phrase 5. "If you do this again, then I will stop loving you!". This phrase is under the strictest ban that can only be uttered by you. You know perfectly well that you will never, under any circumstances, be able to stop loving your baby, so you do not need to assure him otherwise. Let him be sure that you will always be with him, no matter what happens. Also give up phrases like: "I'll take you somewhere and leave you there!" or "I'll give you to someone now!". If the child has upset you in some way, then it's better to say something like: "I love you very much, even though you upset me!". After these words, the baby should definitely explain exactly what he did wrong and why, and after the conversation ends, hug your child. So the child will understand that you support him, and therefore will try to correct his behavior for the better. Bet Andreas Uygulamasını indirmek için Android'in en son sürümüne ve bir akıllı telefona sahip olmanız gerekir. Kumar uygulaması iyi optimize edilmiştir, bu nedenle internet hızınızın ne olduğu önemli değildir. betandreas tr Canlı – canlı video yayınlarını görüntüleme imkanı ile maç ilerledikçe bahislerin düzenlenmesi.
